You Are Not the Guilty Party – Anxiety & Hysteria During Perimenopause

woman in perimenopause upset

Are you riding the hormonal roller coaster and feeling like you’re going crazy?

Anxiety and emotional upheaval during perimenopause aren’t just in your head, and you are not crazy!

During deepest, darkest perimenopause, I thought I was going crazy, losing my capacity at times to function, and feeling embarrassed and unworthy.

Those around me suffered, adding to the deep sense of guilt and regret I often felt.

Demanding situations at work became reason to feel my blood boil and then explode. Or instead, break down in tears as I ran to hide in the bathroom.

Simple requests from an intimate became intolerable, and sappy commercials on TV made me cry buckets.

Some nights I’d wake up in the middle of the night panicked, unable to go back to sleep, if I’d even fallen asleep to begin with.

I felt a sense of doom and depression, totally uncharacteristic of me. The slightest setback triggered a cascade of worries and negative thoughts about my safety, well being and survival.

“What the hell is going on?”, I thought.

Well, perimenopause and fluctuating hormones is what is going on!

The one thing I can tell you, now that I’m basically in menopause (I haven’t had a period in 9 months — woot woot!!) is this:

I’m noticing that all the extreme ups and downs and emotions are subsiding and a semblance of sanity has returned. Except….when I have my one hot flash a day as I’m falling asleep (and I’m doing something about that snicky snack!).

Just as I’m falling asleep, I’m suddenly jerked awake with a flood of dark, anxious, doom & gloom, roller coaster ride of thoughts and emotions. And then the hot flush comes. And I go “Aha! I see what’s going on there. Hormones are taking me for a ride!”

woman relieved and happy

It literally was just chemistry those years of the wild ride. I can see that now. It’s like a switch goes on and all those old feelings come flooding in, but once the sweating and overheating kick in I realize that it’s just the body riding the hormone wave.

I am NOT the guilty party here. I did not create these emotions and thoughts, I am not a bad person for having them.

I DO have to take as much responsibility for them as I can, and seek help when I can’t.

Are you struggling with feeling crazy and out of control? Let us know…you are not alone!

While I can’t tell you there’s a magic pill to make it all go away, I can tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel and you are NOT the guilty party!

First you have to start by taking care of yourself. My website has tons of useful information on how to do that naturally and safely:
– getting support from your doctor or Naturopath
– eating a healthy diet of whole foods rather than fast foods
– taking supplements to support your body’s changes and stress
exercise (yes, you can’t afford NOT to do this!)
– getting counseling help
– spending time with girlfriends… and the list goes on.
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